There is absolutely nothing wrong with firmly declaring or stating what one believes. Especially when such beliefs or assertions are based on personal experience. In fact, one major factor that makes an opinion acceptable in Psychology is your wealth of proven knowledge about it.
Even in science, theories are never postulated without series of empirical research or study. Practical experiments and observations are carried out over a period of time just to prove a point.
The phrase “to hear straight from the horse’s mouth” means that an information is coming directly from someone who has a personal knowledge of the subject matter. Therefore, first hand experience is the one and only factor that gives anyone the right to make absolute assertions.
People say that every individual is entitled to, and can freely express their own opinion but any opinion that is void of experiential facts is baseless and not noteworthy. So when I hear some controversial assertions on life issues, morals and ethics, I feel they are made to either spite or ridicule the efforts of others. And of course in other cases, I believe it is just a system of appealing to the hearers’ sentiments.
A case in point is the assertion that “marriage is not an achievement” or “the essence of womanhood is absolutely not in being a wife, giving birth and nurturing”.
Now, while I neither agree nor disagree with these views, I usually prefer to have it served by someone who has made an absolute success of their marriage, raised responsible children and has nurtured a few dreams to fruition. A combination of these achievements plus more in the speaker’s resume will definitely make my ears tingle at what they are trying to teach me.
I mean such words would sound better if they are coming from a married woman! One who has been in marriage for a good number of years, has given birth to children or at least has raised one, has actively been involved in all forms of house chores and can consistently- on the average- come out of the kitchen with a decent meal anytime.
Personally, I see marriage as a place of compromise, absolute sharing, discipline, determination and focus. And from experience, I have seen and can categorically state that “It is not everyone that has the staying power marriage requires”. So, marriage as it were, may not be an achievement, but making a success of it can be seen as one!.
I graduated from the university with a second class lower division. I wonder how I would look standing up somewhere, stating that a first class degree is absolutely useless! Whatever point I am trying to make should be able to survive without mentioning any particular class of degree. And if I am indeed trying to prove a tangible point, i believe a greater percentage of my congregation would have been better persuaded if I actually hold a first class degree.
Imagine a man who never really participated in paying his children’s fees, telling his teenage son that fatherhood has nothing much to do with payment of bills! I’m sure such a father will earn the son’s attention with that statement if he has never defaulted in his duties.
You see, one of the reasons Jesus Christ came down to this planet was to walk in our shoes! He could have atoned for our sins right from the glorious heavens, without coming all the way down. But No! The Father would take nothing less than a thorough sacrifice which must come from one who is willing to be touched with the feeling of our infirmities.
Today, Jesus intercedes for us with a deep understanding of our frailties. He knows how exactly it feels to be human.
I am wary of people who make controversial assertions about certain life issues and who always speak strongly to prove their opinions. I always want to dig to find out if they have failed in that area of contention or are simply too lazy to make efforts to succeed in that regard.
Needless to say, many people just speak or make assertions out of sheer ignorance.
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